Children Learn What They Live

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.

If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.

If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.

If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.

If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.

If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.

If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.

If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.

If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.

If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.

If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.

If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.

If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.

If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.

If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.

If children live with fairness, they learn justice.

If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.

If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.

If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

-- Dorothy Law Nolte 1972　Children Learn What They Live. --

「子ども」

批判ばかりされた子どもは　非難することをおぼえる

殴られて大きくなった子どもは　力にたよることをおぼえる

笑いものにされた子どもは　ものを言わずにいることをおぼえる

皮肉にさらされた子どもは　鈍い良心のもちぬしとなる

しかし

激励をうけた子どもは自信をおぼえる

寛容にであった子どもは忍耐をおぼえる

賞賛をうけた子どもは評価することをおぼえる

フェアプレーを経験した子どもは公正をおぼえる

友情を知る子どもは親切をおぼえる

安心を経験した子どもは信頼をおぼえる

可愛がられ抱きしめられた子どもは世界中の愛情を感じとることをおぼえる

（所載：アーネ・リンドクウィスト，ヤン・ウェステル著川上邦夫訳　1997「あなた自身の社会　スウェーデンの中学教科書」　新評論）

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